I need help. My family isn't extremely religious, but I have a problem. I want to believe in god, but lately it's been getting harder and harder. I just don't have faith any more. It's seems many religious people are so narrow minded. I've read some pretty wacky stuff in the bible (like justifying rape) and I'm wondering what I should do. If I come forward about my problems to my family they will suddenly think I wanna worship satan or I'm evil. I just know they won't understand. Please someone give me some answers! PS If there is any typos, sorry
Coming forward to your family is a big step, and there is NO shame in waiting until you think they are able to accept it. This might indeed mean that you do not discuss it with them for a very long time.
If you can, it may be a good idea to try and say that you disagree with them on smaller issues but agree with them on larger ones. A good way to go about this is to research certain parts of the faith, for example the bible and point out that they don't quite gel with each other. However remember that the important thing is not to win the argument, just make sure they are aware you don't necessarily agree with their view of religion (of course if you can win the argument without any hurt feelings that's a different matter). This way you graduate from believing what they do, to maybe believing a similar thing to what they do with a few exceptions.
I'm trying to suggest that instead of making it one big momentous occasion you take your time and introduce them to the idea slowly. Be aware that it might not work and you could end up having an argument anyway, but it will be much less of a shock when you do, if they already have their own suspicions. I personally believe that people (even religious people ) are fundamentally good. So long as the revelation isn't to much of a shock and they have time to sort out their feelings they will (probably) accept you for what you are.
In the mean time feel free to message me any time you have any questions or concerns, or you want to talk things over, and also it may be an idea to take a look at internet forums where people have views more in line with your own. I have this page here, but I'm much more active on facebook (although if you want to message me your probably better off doing it here as I may not catch it on facebook) and one on tumblr as well, but if you spend any time on tumblr a better blog to follow might be [link] who is a lovely young lady that seems to have her head on pretty good. If you do follow her blog, please tell her that I sent you, it will make me look good
Finally remember that no matter what I or anybody else tells you, WE are not in your situation, we do not know all the little nuances, or the personalities involved. Do not let anyone talk you into something rash or hasty. If you decide to tell a member of your family about it, wait at least 24 hours to make sure you have considered it properly and your not just doing it out of a rush of emotion.
Again feel free to ask me any questions that you like. Don't worry about typos, they really don't matter.